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Music Makes My Heart Sing…

     Music to fit any mood!
Music to fit any mood!

Recently, as a reward for enduring another PT session for my ever-plaguing hip bursitis (topic for another blog post?), I treated myself to a Starbucks’ coffee at Target.  Normally, I would prefer to sit in a Starbucks shop and relax, but I needed to pick up a few items from Target so chose to indulge in the java there.  Actually, it wasn’t an unpleasant atmosphere – I sat by a window and watched the rain outside, and the only other patron sitting at the tables was a young mother and a very cute baby who charmed me with her smiles.  The best part was the background music playing was music from the 1940s.

Though I was merely a baby at the end of that decade, I have always been drawn to the music of the 40s.  Listening to it always conjures up images of an era gone by.  I can imagine all sorts of scenarios to go with it…like, I can imagine soldiers of WWII and their sweethearts dancing the lindy to the big band sounds. (That is, when they were on leave and not fighting the ugly war.)  Since it is in my imagination only, I can make the scene as fanciful as I want.

I think music is wonderful in the ways it can relax us, excite us, motivate us, inspire us, or cheer us.  It can also bring joy and laughter or even tears.  Listening to music can be an escape – from sadness, stress, undesirable tasks or boredom; or, it can provide a diversion as we go about our household chores or exercise.  And, what about providing the impetus to get up and dance – with or without a partner?!

Mostly, I only listen to music when I am driving in my car.  Thanks to SiriusXM radio, I have a wide variety of genres from which to choose.  With the exception of hard rock and opera, I love all of it, and choose whatever appeals to me at the moment. Though I also often  select public radio and the news to catch up on current events (more frustrating than anything, these days), I have set my favorite music stations so they are available quickly with the press of a button. Like my husband, who flips back and forth between several channels while watching TV, I tend to flip back and forth between radio stations in the car.  My rule with oldies songs, for instance, is if I have never heard the song before, don’t remember it, or don’t like it, I don’t listen to it and quickly change the channel.

I know in the past, I have written about how much I love silence; and, I still think it has its merits and benefits.  But, today, I am writing to remind myself how much I enjoy listening to music which of course, is noise – in some cases, big noise.  I don’t listen to some of the oldies or my favorite country tunes without cranking up the volume…likely why I now need hearing aids!  Even my introverted soul can be energized by listening to music, and I am vowing to take time more often to listen to it other than just when I am in my car.

If you are already a music lover and indulge in listening frequently, you are probably saying, “well, duh!” as you read this.  If not, maybe you will be inspired to take time to treat yourself to your favorite tunes more frequently.

Music sets my heart free.  I hope it does for you also.

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It’s all about finding ways to create coziness…

I have just recently learned of the Danish word, hygge (pronounced hoo-ga).  Simply defined, it means coziness.

Cozy up with a cup of tea and a good book.
Cozy up with a cup of tea and a good book.

 For those of you like me that have not heard of this word, it refers to a Danish concept that helps the Danes get through the long, dark winter.  (Actually, in Denmark, they indulge in this concept all year round; but in my mind, it is most needed in winter.) It means creating a warm atmosphere; enjoying the good things in life; spending time with loved ones.

Some say the Danes are the happiest people in the world – maybe hygge explains why.

(As an aside, for those Norwegians reading this, hygge actually comes from a Norwegian word meaning well-being.  The Danes adopted the concept in the 18th century.  Since my heritage is at least half Danish, I choose to embrace the word as the Danes do.)

It seems those of us living in the colder climates could benefit from hygge.  Minnesota winters are not unlike Denmark’s winters with their cold and dark days and nights.  Maybe that is one of the reasons my grandparents decided to land here when they immigrated – the climate was familiar.  (Another side story – when my grandparents, Jens and Agnes, came to America in 1910, they traveled with their 6 month old baby, my dad.  I imagine that was quite the journey for a very young couple with a baby.)

But, I digress from my topic today – hygge.  Though I was fortunate enough and very grateful to have spent a week in January on Grand Cayman basking in the sunshine and warmth of the island, now that I have been back home for a couple of weeks, it seems I have fallen prey to the lethargy of dark, cold days causing me to be unmotivated to do anything productive, and feeling rather blue.  I feel like a slug (actually the word is sluggard)!

So, I am choosing to embrace hygge and taking steps to overcome my funk.  Spring is just around the corner, meaning longer and warmer days, and the opportunity to get outside more; so, I don’t have much longer to endure the effects of winter.

Meanwhile, here are some techniques I have been utilizing which seem to fit in with the concept of hygge…creating warmth and coziness…to help me enjoy what is left of winter.

  • I light a candle or candles, as I work in my kitchen preparing dinner.  The Danes apparently use lots of candles in the winter to create hygge.
  • I snuggle under an afghan as I watch sappy Hallmark movies with RC on TV.
  • I try to include comfort food every now and then in my menu planning – last night we had a yummy chicken/sweet potato stew which I made for the first time.

    Enjoy a good stew on a winter night - comfort food.
    Enjoy a good stew on a winter night – comfort food.
  • I enjoy my morning cup of coffee or afternoon tea in a favorite mug.
  • I curl up with a good book and read in the middle of the day.  I am grateful for retirement and the opportunity to do this.
  • I open the blinds in the rooms of my home early in the day and let the light stream in.
  • I try to get outside mid-day to enjoy real daylight.
  • I treat myself to a creative excursion/fieldtrip occasionally – doing something just for fun or inspiration.

I do think the Danes are on to something.  I like the idea of hygge and since I am a Dane it seems I can own the concept.

I invite you to join me.  What do you do to create coziness?

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Everything’s new again…

It’s 2017…a new year!

new experiences, new challenges, new opportunities, new methods, new failures, new products, new directions, new events, new sadness, new happiness, new exercise, new sights, new prayers, new realizations, new disappointments, new celebrations, new traditions, new babies, new deaths, new movies, new books, new endings

New Beginnings

That’s a whole lotta new stuff; but, I figure we all will encounter most of it in 2017.  As self-help books and articles will tell us, it’s up to us how we deal with all of this.  Our attitude is key.  We can feel overwhelmed with all that the year brings, or we can feel energized with the possibilities…have a negative attitude or a positive attitude.  And, I’m guessing, on any given day we may bounce between the two, so the trick will be to focus on staying positive.  I wish there was a set of specific instructions as to how to do that, but there isn’t – each of us will have to find our own ways of dealing with life’s happenings.

I’ve always felt the flip of the calendar into the new year offers me a clean slate – a chance to try new things, improve my behavior and outlook on life, and face each day with a positive attitude.  I know I have to work hard to stay focused and make the most of those opportunities.  It would be easy to fall off the wagon, so to speak, after just a few weeks.  Kind of like the masses of people you see at the gym on January 1 certain that this will be the year they maintain a regular exercise program; then, after a few weeks, you never encounter them again.  (Maybe the ease of falling short is why I choose not to make specific resolutions – it’s too difficult to keep them, and I don’t want to feel like a failure.)

Today, I am full of optimism and wishing that each of you reading this, and I, will face 2017 with a positive attitude towards all the new things life will throw at us.  I am not able to take credit for the phrase an attitude of gratitude; but, I have found that acknowledging all the good things in my life on a daily basis, helps me to appreciate each day.

And, oh, by the way, I have set a goal for 2017 to attempt to post a blog a couple of times a month.  (Notice the word, attempt – gives me an out if I fail.)  I realize it has been two months since I last posted so I know I have some work to do here!

Happy New Year!

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What the world needs now…

is love sweet love.  It’s the only thing that there’s just too little of.  What the world needs now is love sweet love, no not just for some but for everyone. 

Lyrics from a Dionne Warwick song back in the 60s, but how fitting for today’s world, if you ask me.  What with all the ugly news relating to politics, racial tension, terrorism, and more, couldn’t we all use just a little more love?

In no particular order, here are some ideas of what love looks and feels like to me:

  • Maxie painting a ceramic bowl especially for me, Grammy, – a “cookie jar”

    a "cookie jar" made for Grammy by Max
    a “cookie jar” made for Grammy by Max
  • Jack & Max (grandsons) playing with Peter (son to me and uncle to them) in the back yard – tossing and catching a football
  • hugs from Max
  • rocking a baby to sleep
  • singing to a baby or toddler
  • reading a story to a child
  • having coffee with Amy & Karen (daughter & daughter-in-law)
  • December shopping day with my girls
  • bookclub meetings with a special group of friends who have been meeting for over 15 years
  • having Dairy Queen treats with RC
  • making love with RC
  • family gatherings

    Love family gatherings
    family gatherings
  • gardening – making the backyard beautiful to enjoy with loved ones
  • sharing grandkids’ antics with RC or Amy, Dan, Pete, Karen (those of us who love them)
  • communicating 1:1 with someone – no distractions
  • enjoying any activity outdoors
  • kind words uttered to or from someone
  • kind deeds done for or from someone
  • RC taking care of my car – pumping gas, oil changes, tending to repairs
  • unexpected gifts
  • no questions asked, no explanations needed for the activities I choose to participate in or spend money on (freedom)
  • back rubs
  • phone calls from Jack or Max
  • attending the grandsons’ school happenings & sports activities
  • lunch with Pete once a month
  • getting together with good friends

    Enjoying fun times with friends
    fun times with friends
  • watching a movie with RC
  • a black & white cat curled up in my lap or on the chair behind my head (she’s gone now and I miss her)

I am very blessed to have all this love in my life.  I challenge you to make a list of the things that bring you love in your life.  If you choose to share by commenting below, I’d love to hear what you cherish.

 

Perhaps we can inspire one another to realize and recognize the loveliness of the world instead of the ugliness of the world!

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Relaxation IS all it’s cracked up to be…

Labor Day morning finds us both sitting in our easy chairs side by side (well, an end table between) in the living room.  He, on the laptop reading the morning news, me sitting on a heating pad to hopefully ease the pain in my back, watching Live with Kelly on TV…both, with a cup of coffee in hand.

How very like old people we seem, comfortably sitting and whiling away time.

(Oh, wait a minute, we are old!)

The easy chairs - RC left, MC right
The easy chairs – RC left, MC right

Magazines I’ve read or TV programs I have watched (think Leave It to Beaver or Father Knows Best – back in the day ) have depicted such scenes showing a couple sitting next to one another, the woman perhaps knitting while the man reads the paper or watches TV.  Seems so very nostalgic to me – harkening back to slower-paced days when people took time to sit down and relax.  (Did that really happen long ago, by the way, – or is it just a fantasy and really, most people have never relaxed?)

As a younger person, I never imagined myself in this homey type picture…I was always too busy “doing” something.  However, I’m happy to report now, RC and I can usually be found in our chairs (always the same one for each of us) at one time or another each day; and, it is one of the many joys I have in my life.  I’m grateful we are getting old together and though we are usually engaged in separate activities as we sit, we are together.  I guess that is known as companionship.

I am now content and comfortable just sitting and being.  Yes, as I sit, I am usually engaged in reading, working on a crossword puzzle, or messing with my tablet.  But, in times past, I found it very difficult to sit and do something enjoyable rather than be involved in constantly moving about working at completing some kind of chore…you know, household drudgery type activities like washing dishes, vacuuming, tending to the laundry or the like.  (RC, on the other hand, has always known how to relax – many times, much to my annoyance when I wanted his help with one of my chores “right now”.)

I’m guessing that this newfound ability to while away time is a natural happening as one ages.  Retirement and having more discretionary time available certainly helps the cause.  Anyone reading this that is still raising children and/or holding a full-time job likely will not be able to relate…(let alone, be familiar with the TV programs I mentioned above).  I get that – been there, done that.  But, I’m here to tell you relaxing now and then is a good thing.  It IS all it is cracked up to be!  I encourage you to find a comfortable chair in your home and strive to just sit there and do something for fun when you can.

And, if you are lucky enough to share your life with a significant other, I hope you too will enjoy moments of companionship sitting side by side in your easy chairs.

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